How to Handle Self-Sabotaging Behavior
Throughout our lives there are many things that we want to accomplish. And as life would have it, there are just as many things that might get in our way. The interesting thing is that sometimes the thing that keeps us from accomplishing our goals is ourselves. It can be negative self-talk, fear, or doubts. For us to be as successful as possible, we must take steps to combat this self-sabotaging behavior.
Take ownership of your goals
When you decide to take on a project in any part of your life, take ownership for what comes with it. Don’t blame everything and everyone around you for the circumstances around accomplishing your goal. Take ownership of the choice you made to start that project and focus on the end result of completing it.
Avoid Avoidance and move forward
Focus on the tasks that are truly productive not just what’s on the surface. Those who play the victim tend to focus on every task except what really needs to be done to give them a false ideal that they are being productive which allows them to justify the lack of real progress. Move forward with the proper steps to achieve your goals.
Everyone needs a Cheerleader!
Achieving your goals requires a lot of courage to overcome the fear, doubts and guilt that may come with your decisions. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and encouraging. This makes getting past those initial fears a lot easier. And don’t forget your most important cheerleader, yourself!
Written By: Jenai Muhammad, graduate level intern, Loring Therapy, LLC www.loringtherapy.com . Edited by Charity M. Loring, LMSW
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