Resentment

Coping With Resentment

“Living with resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other person will get sick”

We all deal with situations that make us uncomfortable, upset, and frustrated with others. Sometimes when our feelings aren’t addressed or we don’t feel satisfied with the situations outcome we may gain resentment towards those involved. When we resent someone we constantly replay the feelings and events that caused those feelings over and over in our heads.  Sometimes our resentment towards others is ignited and fueled by other past experiences that may or may not have to do with the person involved. Although we all experience these feelings at one time or another, it is in no way healthy for anyone. Holding on to feelings of unhappiness, anger, and hurt can really hinder your ability to move forward in life and learn to deal with your problems. Letting go of resentment is essential to not letting your past control your present. Here are some things we can do to move forward and let go or resentment. 

1. View resentment as the addictive state of mind it is.
2. Realize you cannot change the past.
3. Acknowledge that you can’t control others.
4. Acknowledge that your resentment may come from past experiences.
5. Remember that resentment only gives you an illusion of strength and focus on highlighting your real strengths and power. 
6. Work on being forgiving. Remember that forgiveness is for you not for the other person so that you may let go of what hurts you. 

Written By: Jenai Muhammad, graduate level intern, Loring Therapy, LLC www.loringtherapy.com Adapted from: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-therapist-is-in/201103/living-resentment-is-taking-poison-and-hoping-the-other-guy-will-get Clinging to resentments poisons your mind, body and soul. By  Mark Sichel.