Thursday, June 26, 2014
Comparing Disconnects us from Others and Ourselves.
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Basic ways to mend a Relationship
While each relationship is different, many times a conflict may arise. The way to resolve conflicts within a relationship are often as unique as the relationship itself however, some basic principles may help:
Taken from Insights/Blogs in Psychology Today, May/June, 2013 Volume 46, Issue 3
By James Clapper, graduate level intern, Charity Loring, LMSW, Loring Therapy LLC
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Tuesday, June 24, 2014
Saying No
It is often easy to say yes, it can make one feel good, it can make others feel good, it shows you are being cooperative, perhaps even friendly but, there is also a time to say no. Sometimes we must say no so that we can strengthen our relationship with others. If we consistently find ourselves saying yes even when we are feeling stretched thin, or for any unhealthy reasons, we can tend to resent others and ourselves for saying yes too often. There are ways of saying no nicely and respectfully. And if saying no will keep resentment and the feeling of being taken for granted or obligated out of the equation, then it will truly strengthen our relationships with others.
You have a right to say no, and in some cases, an obligation to do so. Saying yes is often easy, saying no may be difficult but is sometimes both needed and the right thing to do.
Adapted from the Psychology Today article “The Power of No,” November/December, 2013, Volume 46, Issue 6
By James Clapper Graduate level intern and Charity Loring LMSW, Loring Therapy LLC
www.loringtherapy.com
Thursday, June 19, 2014
Needing Therapy but are having difficulty getting out of the house?
For those who are homebound or have difficulty finding a therapist nearby, Loring Therapy, LLC offers mental health therapy sessions online via Skype.
Contact Charity Loring, LMSW through the following website:
www.loringtherapy.com
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
Do you feel lonely and isolated?
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
Challenge Your Negative Thinking
Everyone has had doubts about something at one point or another in his or her life. This is a normal part of being human, wondering if we are making the right choice, or doing the right thing. For some people, however, negative thinking can become a way of life. Every action or thought becomes an internal dialogue, beating yourself up internally about what is happening or going on. There are ways to challenge such thoughts. Slow down and ask yourself:
By challenging the thoughts, one can begin to learn to view situations differently the next time they arise and find ways to overcome them. However, if self help techniques are not working, contact your local therapist for more help.
Adapted from the article “Think This, Not That,’ by Rita A. Schulte in “Counseling Today,” June, 2013, Volume 55, Issue 12
By James Clapper, Graduate Level Intern, Loring Therapy LLC
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Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Your Self Esteem
Building your self-esteem
For many people, they are their own worst critic. They can feel that they should do things better, or could have been more than they are. Such negative thoughts are often wrong, and can interfere with being happy or moving forward. They need to learn to challenge such thoughts. One of the most effective methods to do so is to write it out, use a journal to track and challenge these thoughts. Include what the thought is, when it started, and what happened that made you think this way. Then challenge those thoughts by writing how others may see you, what your friends or family say, and another way of looking at the situation, what are the positives. Humor is another effective tool, find something humorous in the situation itself.
Adapted from the article “Quieting the Inner Critic” by Laurie Meyers in “Counseling Today,” February 2014, Volume 56, issue 8.
By James Clapper, Graduate Level Intern, Loring Therapy
You are not alone
Thursday, June 5, 2014
Improving your sleep can improve your mental health.
The lack of sleep or poor quality of sleep has been shown to increase, and perhaps even cause depression, anxiety, and stress. It can have negative effects on the heart and immune system and negatively impact emotional well being.
Ways to improve your sleep:
Adapted from “Tossing and turning in the Digital Age,” by Laurie Meyers in Counseling Today (June, 2014, Volume 56/Issue 12)
By James Clapper, Graduate Level Intern, Loring Therapy, LLC
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Tuesday, June 3, 2014
Overcoming Your Fears
How you can overcome your fears
Do not ignore your fear, acknowledge it. Try to identify the source or trigger of your fear. Write down or journal when it happens and what causes it. A journal can help identify the fear and help track your progress toward overcoming it.
Define the scope of the fear. Use the journal to help keep track of and discover when the fear started, how it affects you, and is the fear reasonable (is it a fear of something that can actually harm you).
Imagine life without your fear. What would your life be like if you did not have the fear? Set smaller goals to help bring about the changes you imagine.
Start slow. Slowly make the changes needed to overcome the fear.
Keep Trying. Be prepared for set-backs along the way as there may be times when the fear may resurface, but do not let it deter you, keep trying.
Celebrate each step. Each step toward your goal is a victory, recognize it as such and celebrate it.
By James Clapper, graduate level intern, Loring Therapy LLC
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